I went out with Doctor #1 agan last night. We met up at this cool restaurant uptown that changes their decor/menu by the season. I must say autumn is DELICIOUS and sexy. He greeted me with the new jacket he bought for me. I had picked out a similar one for $200 but he decided to go with the $800 one instead. NOT COMPLAINING. It’s perfect.
I had almost forgotten how much I loved hanging out with him. It doesn’t even feel like a SB/SD thing, because he is only 34 and we have so much in common. I have a blast with him. We had an amazing dinner and he said next he wants to take me to a broadway musical because I love musicals.
I’m a bit bummed that I haven’t seen any cash yet… he knows that I’m late on rent and really hurting right now. I’m not entirely sure how to handle it because I don’t want to risk ruining the whole thing by bringing it up. He’s been treating me great so I don’t want to seem greedy! Now he’s off to Atlanta though :( Hopefully I will see him before I go home for Thanksgiving.
I also had a date planned for tonight with Doctor #2. Need a new name for him…. But anyways, I had to bail this morning because I woke up with the worst cold and no voice! I apologized and told him we’d have to reschedule. He then sent me about 40 texts and called me while I was at work and couldn’t answer. He went on about how he wanted to confirm that I couldn’t make it and blah blah… YES I just said I couldn’t make it CHILL. He keeps saying he’s not trying to be overbearing but dude. Several novel texts in a row are not ok.
And now I’m gunna go back to dying in bed. Night xx
Had my first date with Doctor #2 last night. I need to come up with a new name for him…. now both of the guys I’m talking to have the same first name and are both Doctors. Could be an issue…
Anyways. He met me after work at another fancy steakhouse in the city. He was wearing a suit and I had just run over from work, so I will admit I looked a bit out of place there. I even got carded at the restaurant! The waitress was giving me dirty looks the whole night. Whatever. We sat down and he handed me a birthday card, which I later opened to find $500. Not too shabby! He talked a lot about work…. and his kids… which made me feel very uncomfortable. I suppose him having a family is a good thing though because he can only see me a few times a month and usually has to be home relatively early.
He told me down the road he would love to have me join him on business trips, but he said he’s willing to be patient with me until I feel comfortable. All in all, we had a great dinner. He said he felt like the luckiest guy in the world. Damn straight! He better remember that!
Discussed and agreed on an arrangement. He told me never to put my personal life on hold because of him and that if I ever want to blow off our plans for a real date he totally understands. Into it. Will most likely be keeping him around.
This website is frustrating. Do these men honestly think they are paying you $100 for sex? Decided to accept this guys offer for $250 even though he is fat and unattractive. I figured I could endure a dinner with the guy. Get a message saying “Come over my place tomorrow night for a drink”…………………..
”THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. it may save a life.) Reblog this!
It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a
situation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world. THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…
FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three is public restrooms.
7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:
can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel
little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….
I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or
purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be
hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.
DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT NOT REBLOGGING THIS! IT COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.
There’s also a trick where you cup your hand/palm and slam it as hard as you can against the assaulter/rapists ear. It throws them off balance and it’ll give you time to run away. Saved me.
this is actually really good information though omg :/
reblogging this everytime it comes up.
wow. really makes you think and re-evaluate how you do things.
Finally got up the courage to go on my first POT date on Saturday night! We had quite possibly the best meal of my life at this delicious steakhouse in the city. He was impressed that I ate more steak than him and I promised him I would never order a salad on any of our dates. Found out he works at two hospitals and has his own private practice- so he’s super busy but is looking for someone to go out to dinners and plays with when he has time. Didn’t bring sex up once. WIN. And he’s only 34. Double win.
He was also genuinely shocked when I told him a guy has never paid for my meal or bought me ANYTHING. I’ve been so used to taking care of people, I never saw it as strange but it really seemed to upset him. He said he hopes to turn the tables on that.
No cash unfortunately, but he did send me an email yesterday telling me to pick out a nice jacket at Bloomingdales and he would buy it for me this week. I guess wearing my lightest jacket and complaining about the cold weather paid off. Might send him an email back with a few more things I would like… I mean it is my birthday Friday. Feeling like a princess. This is fun!